Itâ€™s every parent desires to raise up their kids in a Godly way and for them to follow and love Christ passionately. It becomes a tragedy when you as a parent does not have any idea on how to. What a hard nut to crack if the children decide to be rebellious and as a parent or guardian you are not rooted in the word of God?
This pushes me to ask this annoying question, â€œAre you living a life your child would love to emulate?” Live as an example and whatever principles you set he will follow them wholeheartedly.
Proverbs 22:6 says â€œTrain up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Children are a blessing from God and itâ€™s a joy when they are following the footsteps of our Lord Christ Jesus and doing things according to his will. As we were all born sinners, children arenâ€™t an exception and unless you allow the Holy Spirit to guide you in parenting, I tell you this is not for the faint-hearted but Iâ€™ll take you through ways on how to help you raise Godly children and for them to learn His attributes.
Pray for wisdom
James 1:5 says â€œIf any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”
Praying, reading the word and exercising wisdom as you wait on God unlock many puzzles which the enemy can use to draw your children far away from his love. It doesnâ€™t act like magic but takes the grace of God which will always sustain you. Implementing on what you learn from Godâ€™s word is highly recommended.
Protect your children
In this generation we are living in, children are surrounded by perverts, ungodly media and all negative influencers. As a parent, you need to take full responsibility to ensure that your children are protected from all vices. Itâ€™s your mandate for the Lord has entrusted them to you.
Control your children
Parents allow too much freedom to their children and it turns out to be very difficult to withdraw that freedom while they are older. You have the right to supervise what theyâ€™re watching, sites they log into to protect them from cyberbullying and to avoid technology controlling them. Monitoring whom they spend their time with is advisable. Teach them to walk in the â€œfear” of God and make them understand that there are boundaries. Be firm but with a lot of love.
Trying to turn children away from their wayward behavior comes with a lot of emotional burdens that takes massive effort to heal.
Have commitment and determination
Amos 3:3 says, â€œCan two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?”
Itâ€™s obliviously a no! As parents, you need to agree and purpose on how to raise your children in a Godly way and with the help and guidance of the Holy Spirit youâ€™ll definitely emerge victoriously. Determination comes from within and the higher the commitment; awesomeness will be experienced by all.
Bless your children
Speak positively concerning your children. Bless them and speak to their future. The tongue has the power to curse and bless and you may not wish your child to live in resentment for the rest of his life because of the choice of your words.
Proverbs 12:18 says, â€œThe words of the reckless pierce like swords but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
Sieve every word that comes out from your mouth. Children can be rebellious at times and no matter how irresponsible they are, thank God for blessing you with that child. Talk to them about how their behaviors are weighing you down and at the same time appreciate them for their best part. Dwelling on the negativity will tear both parties down. Be wise.
Proverbs 23:13-14 says, â€œDo not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die. Punish them with the rod and save them from the death.
Children are bound to be rebellious and little spanking is allowed as long as it wonâ€™t cause bodily harm. Do it with a lot of love though. Involve your children in daily prayers and set family devotional times.