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Shed Some Tears, and Be Ok with That

Tears, shedding tears

Shedding tears in this world is not a matter of if, only a matter of when.

There’s nothing wrong with shedding tears.

I was speaking with a friend the other day and he was telling me about his financial hardships. He was going over how things were getting tough around the house, and how he was working hard to make life better. He had been crying. I responded with words of encouragement and said, “Don’t worry. God knows what you need. It’s going to be ok! He will respond to your needs!”

He replied, “I know but the pain is still radiating and my tears are what God has given me to relieve the pain.” I took me a while to understand why he felt the need to give me a reason to why he was crying. Then it hit me: He thought I was telling to stop crying when I was trying to provide spiritual comfort.

Any biblical response to a bad situation is not a call to “Toughen up Buttercup”. It’s recognizing you may not be able to do anything about the situation, you serve a mighty God that can. My Bible tells me that with God all things are possible (Matt. 19:26). The shedding of tears may be a sign of weakness to some, but that’s weakness made perfect in Jesus Christ (2 Cor. 12:9). Tears are a human response to relieve the body of physical pain. The removal of that response can evolve into a sinful nature that was never meant to engage. But because you were hurting, you were vulnerable, and you needed a release.

Let’s shed some tears. Don’t turn to adultery, drugs, or over eating. Don’t let Satan’s voice whisper in your ear to end it all. NO. I want you to have a good cry, but in that moment, I want you talk through those tears to a God that loves you.   Jesus gives us a perfect model to dealing with our tears. Jesus wept when he approached the tomb of Lazarus (John 11: 35- 38). But in his groaning, the text explains, he was moving towards a spiritual response. That response not only raised his friend from the dead, but was a confirmation to all he is God’s Son! (John 11: 39-44). God works through the spiritual to address the physical! Let His Divine nature take control and not only be victorious, but a testimony to others who may also be suffering.

When God is ready to use you, tears will dry up. Why? Because you’re  entering into a different form and function. Tears serve a purpose. Don’t ever think you’re wrong for crying. Don’t get defensive when people come to you with spiritual comfort. When giving spiritual comfort, let the recipient understand it’s ok to cry. But, let them know that God is in control, and that the brokenness won’t last forever. If we had more people shedding tears, and even more people comforting them with God’s Word, who knows how that would affect bullying, suicides, crime in general. It’s ok to cry. Never forget that.

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Let Our Advance Worrying Become Advance Thinking and Planning: 20 Project Management Quotes to Live By

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Job stress or work stress is not always harmful, but it should be kept within limits. Within a limit, work stress forces us to stay on track. However, if your one of those people who think that stress doesn’t matter? That high-stress levels are somehow something to be endured? think again. Statistics Canada found that 62% of highly stressed workers described work as their main source of stress in a 2010 study, similarly, stress has been proven as a risk factor for numerous diseases, for example,  Health Canada reports that stress is a known risk factor for heart disease and it has been proven that stress is a major cause of absenteeism.

Similar to fear, stress has a biological purpose and is very useful. After stressful stimulation inside the body, chemicals are released that result in a fast heart rate, sweating and tightened muscles. However, if the body is exposed continuously to these natural responses, it will not only impact your cognitive and behavioral performance, it can also have a negative impact on your personal health, wellbeing, and family life.

Here are 20 timeless thoughts on stress and how to handle it from the people who came before us (and some from people who are here with us now).

  1. “I woke up this morning.   A lot of people didn’t.” ~ George Burns
  2. “Let our advance worrying become advance thinking and planning.”  ~ Winston Churchill
  3. “Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life.”  ~ Marilu Henner
  4. “A good plan today is better than a perfect plan tomorrow.”  ~ Proverb
  5. “It is a mistake to look too far ahead. Only one link in the chain of destiny can be handled at a time.”  ~ Winston Churchill
  6. “It is not a daily increase, but a daily decrease. Hack away at the inessentials.” ~ Bruce Lee
  7. “If you don’t think your anxiety, depression, sadness and stress impact your physical health, think again. All of these emotions trigger chemical reactions in your body, which can lead to inflammation and a weakened immune system. Learn how to cope, sweet friend. There will always be dark days.”  ~ Kris Carr
  8. “Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.”~ Ovid
  9. “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”  ~ William James
  10. “Training gives us an outlet for suppressed energies created by stress and thus tones the spirit just as exercise conditions the body.”  ~ Arnold Schwarzenegger
  11. “Planning lies with men; success lies with heaven.”  ~ Chinese proverb
  12. “Long-range planning works best in the short term.”  ~ Euripides
  13. “It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.”  ~ Hans Selye
  14. “Just because something doesn’t do what you planned it to do doesn’t mean it’s useless.”  ~ Thomas Edison
  15. “Remember the two benefits of failure. First, if you do fail, you learn what doesn’t work; and second, the failure gives you the opportunity to try a new approach.”  ~ Roger Von Oech
  16. “For fast-acting relief, try slowing down. “~ Lily Tomlin
  17. “There are no failures – just experiences and your reactions to them.”  ~ Tom Krause
  18. “One of the symptoms of an approaching nervous breakdown is the belief that one’s work is terribly important.”~ Bertrand Russell
  19. “I feel that the most important requirement in success is learning to overcome failure. You must learn to tolerate it.”~ Reggie Jackson
  20. “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”
    ~ Henry Ford
  21. “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.”
    ~ Bill Cosby
  22. “Rule number one is, don’t sweat the small stuff. Rule number two is, it’s all small stuff.”~ Robert Eliot
  23. “Managing to have a sense of humour makes it a lot easier to manage people.” ~ Steve Wilson
  24. “Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.”~ Winnie the Pooh
  25. “When we long for life without difficulties, remind us that oaks grow strong in contrary winds and diamonds are made under pressure.” – Peter Marshall

What is your favorite quote on stress and how to overcome it? Feel free to share the best one(s) you have found in this article or in your life in the comments section below.

 

 

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