I was shocked to know that all of them thought I needed help to stop drinking. The first question I blurted out after hearing them talk was: â€œAm I an alcoholic?â€
It was an honest question because all the while I thought I just loved to drink to relieve stress, but not to the point that I was addicted. Apparently, most alcoholics do not recognize the problem themselves.
Long story short, I joined Alcoholics Anonymous and it completely changed my life.
Finding God in My Recovery
Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is famous for its Twelve Steps which is the backbone of the fellowship. As a Christian who believes in God, albeit one who lost her way, these steps spoke to me because they stress the importance of relying on God as key to recovery.
Below are the specific six AA steps that helped me rediscover God, and in the process led me to discover the path to healing.
Step 2: â€œCame to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.â€
Before joining AA, I tried several times to stop drinking. I told myself that it is just a matter of willpower, which is why I was in despair every time I failed. I hated myself for not being able to quit.
The second step of AA made me realize that I cannot quit without divine intervention. I had dug a hole so deep that I needed Godâ€™s help more than anything. As John 15:5 says, â€œ… apart from me, you can do nothing.â€
As I struggled with alcoholism, I learned to acknowledge my limitations. I was educated, well-off, and popular, yet I still was lured into the trap of alcohol dependence. How could I trust myself or other human beings as imperfect as me to restore my sobriety? Only an all-powerful and all-knowing God could make this happen.
Step 3: â€œMade a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.â€
I went through a long process of denial, anger, and hopelessness before I finally admitted to myself that it is time to surrender my addiction and my whole life to Godâ€™s care once again. It dawned on me that steps 2 and 3 are actually related. If I accept Godâ€™s sovereign power then it makes perfect sense to yield myself completely to Him, right?
I soon admitted all my faults and weaknesses and acknowledged His power to turn my life around. The moment I surrendered every aspect of my life to God, it felt like a heavy load had been lifted off me.
I experienced Psalm 46:10, firsthand, â€œBe still and know that I am God.â€ It was a peace I hadnâ€™t felt before.
Step 5: â€œAdmitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.â€
Thereâ€™s a saying in AA that, â€œWe are only as sick as our secrets,â€ and I found it to be true. The more I kept to myself, the more the guilt, fear, and shame ate me up.
Admitting our faults to God in prayer is different from telling another person of all our wrongdoings. When we only confess to God, we can still go on walking like we were high and mighty even if we are rotting inside.
It was a lesson in humility. This step was probably the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. But I felt liberated after doing it. I believed that God also used this time to chip at my ego and pride.
Step 6 & 7: â€œWere entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of characterâ€ and â€œHumbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.â€
I started my prayer journal during this time. I lifted up in prayer all the destructive things I had done because of my addiction and the sins I had committed. I wrote them down in detail and asked God to give me the grace to overcome each one of them.
This process gave me the chance to be sensitive to Godâ€™s moving in my life. I made it a point to record how God helped me, little by little, in overcoming my defects. Today, I still have my prayer journal to chronicle how God is helping me to persist in growing in virtue.
Step 11: â€œSought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.â€
Personally, this step is essential for the happiness and satisfaction of everyone, not just recovering alcoholics like me. Thanks to my recovery journey, I learned the power of prayer. Praying not to ask for favors but solely to ask God what He wants me to do and, more importantly, to listen to His prodding.
Jeremiah 29:11 says, â€œFor I know the plans I have for you,â€ declares the Lord, â€œplans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.â€ For many years, I had tried living my life my way and it brought me to despair. Now I know that the One who created me should be in charge because He alone knows my purpose in life and how I can fulfill it.
Is Recovery Possible While Excluding God?
There are many studies that support the effectiveness of AAâ€™s treatment approach. As the years go by, however, and as the world becomes more secularized, many non-believers are finding the â€œGod partâ€ in AA uncomfortable. As a result, there are alcoholic support groups now that pledge to offer the benefits of AA, minus the spiritual content of AA.
I find this odd. I have met countless alcoholics who were able to stop their alcohol dependency precisely because they relied on Godâ€™s healing power. Note that most of these people also tried â€œscientificâ€ treatments and entered secular rehabs to no effect.
God is the missing key to successful and long-term recovery. How can one be healed without the ultimate Healer?
People who allegedly believe in science rather than â€œfairy talesâ€ (God) would argue that the effectiveness of AA is due to non-religious factors: meetings, helping one another, etc. My response would be how can they be certain that it is not because of Godâ€™s power?
The original AA approach has been effective all over the world because of the God-factor. I am a living testament and so are many of my fellow recovering alcoholics. No study can â€œmeasureâ€ God because if He is measurable then He is not God.
All good things come from God because HE is goodness Himself. Recovery from addiction is essentially good. How can it be possible to achieve this good without tapping into the source of goodness?
When one excludes God from the recovery journey, whatâ€™s the point? Without anchoring ourselves to our Creator, who shows us the real purpose of our lives, everything becomes meaningless.
I am grateful for the spiritual aspect of AA because it not only helped in my recovery but it also made me a better person. Paradoxically, I discovered that the more I surrendered my will and entire being to God Almighty, the more I had the strength to overcome my addiction. Indeed, His â€œgrace is sufficient for us, for His power is made perfect in weakness.â€ (2 Corinthians 12:9).
- The â€œalcoholâ€ in alcoholic beverages such as wine, beer, and spirits is actually ethanol, or ethyl alcohol. Itâ€™s the only type of alcohol that you can drink without causing serious damage to your body.
- Alcohol is a depressant. This means that it slows down activity in the brain.
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