The Truth About Weddings, Sex & Soul Mates That the Church Won’t Tell You

What should be different about a Christian marriage?

As an only child, my parents influenced all that I did. They were kind, clever and creative, and I longed to be like them. They’d met when they were 18, married at 20 and always seemed joyously happy and in love.. I simply expected that the same thing would happen to me.

However, I was involved in a relationship that was not right. Some things are “gray issues,” but there are times when we really do know that something is not right. I had the “definitely wrong” conviction about my recent relationship with my boyfriend who I considered to be my soul mate. Yes, he was a , and I even had some friends who told me we were good for each other. But deep down I knew that this was not where was leading me.

There were other clues, too, such as the fact that the people closest to me–my family and longtime friends–didn’t approve. They were impressed that it was not God’s plan for me to be in this relationship. Foolishly, I listened to those who told me what I wanted to hear because this was what I wanted. I didn’t leave God. I kept praying and tricking myself into thinking this was His will, even though I knew it wasn’t, because I thought the sex was, well “true love”.

I think this philosophy of a “soul mate” has done far more harm than good in our society. First and foremost, it’s a concept that is rooted in ancient mythology.  Beyond the fact that the term is founded completely in fairy tale, it’s also entirely unbiblical.

How long will it take us to learn that feelings can’t be trusted?  

If those who are contemplating marriage would not have miserable, unhappy reflections after marriage, they must make it a subject of serious, earnest reflection now. This step taken unwisely is one of the most effective means of ruining the usefulness of young men and women. Life can quickly becomes a burden and a curse.

No one can so effectually ruin a woman’s happiness and usefulness, and make life a heartsickening burden, as her own husband; and no one can do one hundredth part as much to chill the hopes and aspirations of a man, to paralyze his energies and ruin his influence and prospects, as his own dear wife!

It is from the marriage hour that many men and women date their success or failure in this life, and their hopes of the future life.

Marriage is something that will influence and affect your life both in this and in the to come. A sincere Christian will not advance his plans in this direction without the knowledge that God approves his course. He will not want to choose for himself, but will feel that God must choose for him.

Those who build their relationships on the foundation of “feeling” will find that when the rain comes- their love quickly crumbles.

There is no such thing as a person who will complete our souls, because according to God’s word- we are only made complete in Him.

We are not to please ourselves, for Christ pleased not Himself. I would not be understood to mean that anyone is to marry one whom he does not love! But lust and the emotion must not be allowed to overrule common sense. God requires the whole heart and the supreme affections.

This is not a rally cry for divorce, as Marriage for the Christian is supposed to be on a completely different footing than the  what do I get out of this  mindset. We aren’t supposed to be tossing difficult relationships away like some kind of disposable diaper, but this could be a wake up call for your relationship!

True love is based on a healthy combination of facts and feelings, and a whole lot of good choices. May God give you the wisdom to choose well.

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MJK do not know who you are, If you are a Man ask yourself if you have ever deceived a Woman; If you are a young Woman ask yourself if a Man has ever deceived you. Then look at the Cross , why is not the Woman crucified along with the men? Then look at the serpent in the Garden that is man and his lies that he tells the Temple of God, the Woman who births his children the tree of life. Without the help meet of the Lord, Woman, I myself would never have been born. God dwells… Read more »

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Good article young lady, it would appear you have had some problems. I would think you read the Word if I am correct. Look at the Cross and the Crucifiction ask yourself where is the Woman. Men will deceive you in the church or out. You as well as I do know there is a God that dwells within your heart. The problem comes in we are not taught the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, one God, one belief, the God of the Israel nation that has lasted for over 5000 yrs. I am not Jewish nor do I… Read more »

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agree!

Ronald Thomas
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You are probably a young woman do not give your body to a man until you know what   god he serves,   Men will deceive you that is a given. Man fell in the Garden and deceived the help meet of the Lord, the Woman the Temple of the Lord, the tree of Life, as a Father I would tell you to keep your virginity intact.   Men lie I know this to be true.   It was never the church but the Man that heard God’s voice look in the Old Testament.   The altars of men will… Read more »

MKJ
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MKJ

great blog

Ronald Thomas
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MJK do not know who you are, If you are a Man ask yourself if you have ever deceived a Woman; If you are a young Woman ask yourself if a Man has ever deceived you. Then look at the Cross , why is not the Woman crucified along with the men? Then look at the serpent in the Garden that is man and his lies that he tells the Temple of God, the Woman who births his children the tree of life. Without the help meet of the Lord, Woman, I myself would never have been born. God dwells… Read more »

Ronald Thomas
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Good article young lady, it would appear you have had some problems. I would think you read the Word if I am correct. Look at the Cross and the Crucifiction ask yourself where is the Woman. Men will deceive you in the church or out. You as well as I do know there is a God that dwells within your heart. The problem comes in we are not taught the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, one God, one belief, the God of the Israel nation that has lasted for over 5000 yrs. I am not Jewish nor do I… Read more »

MKJ
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MKJ

agree!

Ronald Thomas
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You are probably a young woman do not give your body to a man until you know what  god he serves,  Men will deceive you that is a given. Man fell in the Garden and deceived the help meet of the Lord, the Woman the Temple of the Lord, the tree of Life, as a Father I would tell you to keep your virginity intact.  Men lie I know this to be true.  It was never the church but the Man that heard God’s voice look in the Old Testament.  The altars of men will teach you that it was… Read more »

Ronald Thomas
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mychristianity2017.blog/2018/11/20/the-new-world-interpreting-the-word-gen-11-2-esther-for-the-woman

I teach on how to interpret the Word you might be interested follow along.   I do not represent any religion .   I use the KJV and teach you the Words of the Bible and it helps you to see the images of the Word.

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great blog

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